Are you living with purpose? Do you wake up in the morning and smile knowing you have a purpose? And not in the sense of goals and ambition but that inner one that makes your heart and spirit sing and dance? Living with purpose is an amazing thing. And I am grateful every single day to be able to experience it.
I wrote in one of my earlier blog posts how to find your passion and what moves you, but I wanted to dig a little deeper into the notion of purpose. I got inspired by listening to Melyssa Griffin’s podcast Pursuit With Purpose to once again tackle this issue, especially from the standpoint of being someone suffering from a chronic condition, in my case type 2 diabetes.
As some of you might know, I got diagnosed with type 2 diabetes when I was 30. It crushed a lot of my dreams and ambitions. In the first few years, I let it be one of the biggest things that define me. It seemed my entire life was only revolving around what to eat, when to eat, what foods to avoid, did I exercise enough, guilt trips if I binged and an entire array of the emotional rollercoaster that would accompany it. I let it consume me completely. And it made me miserable.
The thing about having a life-long condition is you have to learn to live with it. Changing your lifestyle changes not only how you feel and look, but it changes your social interactions, how you see yourself, how you deal with negativity, bad days, good days. In my case, I was so consumed by it that I lost my dreams, my goals, my wishes and my purpose.
Losing myself and my purpose felt like a downward spiral into a black hole. I am sure many people suffering from chronic pains and conditions feel similar. You kind of get to that place of telling yourself: What’s the point? It’s not worth it! I don’t care anymore.
And the more you let yourself be surrounded by those thoughts, the more you let go of yourself. I got to the point where I didn’t pay attention to my sugar levels or what I ate and would forget my medicine.
Living with purpose despite a chronic condition
Digging outside of that spiral was a long and hard process and finding my purpose again has lifted me. It has given me wings. I don’t let my condition define me and control me. I control my condition. And I keep myself accountable by helping others who are going through that spiral to get that little push again; to pick themselves up, and start climbing out of that black hole into the light.
I began by asking myself questions, and really focus on getting to the core of my being:
- If I give up now I will never experience happiness. What would really make me happy? If I took better care of myself, will I find that peace I yearn for?
- How can I really achieve that peace? What can I realistically do to get to that place?
- What steps can I take today to be happier?
I spent a lot of time soul-searching and trying to find answers to these questions. And the answer is: I want to help people. Inspiring someone with my story. Help someone who maybe just found out they have type 2 diabetes and let them know that they are not alone. That it’s ok to feel scared and overwhelmed and anxious. But also, that it will be ok.
To take it one step at a time. And live a fulfilling life despite their condition. Because I know they can. They can do it because I can.
Living with purpose – daily rituals
I really encourage you to listen to Melyssa Griffin’s podcast. In the first episode, she really raises meaningful questions everyone should ask themselves, as well as some rituals that help her stay in tune with her purpose.
I also do several daily rituals that help me get to that light:
- Journaling – keeping track of my meal plans, exercise, and emotions. It keeps me balanced. I plan it out the evening before and the next day I just tick off what I did. This helps me prevent emotional eating, binges and keeps me proud of myself.
- Being grateful – Each day when I wake up I tell myself at least three things I am grateful for. Little things. Like having a comfortable bed to sleep in. I write it down. Each day I write different things. When I feel completely overwhelmed I read it. It makes me smile. Try it.
- Breathing – either through meditation or while doing yoga. Plus, I always make sure that before falling asleep I take several minutes just focusing on my breath (I already wrote about my favorite breathing method). If you want to try meditation I suggest you look up Deepak Chopra and Oprah’s Meditation Experience. The next one starts now in July, lasts for 21 days and is free to join. Highly recommend.
- Exercise – I probably repeat this in every post, but exercise not only helps you control the condition but increases your happy hormones. Happy hormones lift you up, give you more energy and more incentive to do positive things with your life.
- Creativity – I write, paint and crochet. It makes my soul sing.
And ultimately I write this blog. To inspire, motivate, help and guide. To provide a place where someone who got lost in the sea of medical information finds relatable experiences and struggles. This is my purpose. And the reason why I made Befithappy. This is my #PursuitWithPurpose
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